Meeting new people

Meeting new people

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FEELING WORRIED ABOUT MAKING NEW FRIENDS AT SCHOOL?

You’re not alone.

For a lot of people, making new friends isn’t easy. It can be scary to go up to someone you don’t know. You might feel shy. You might worry that they won’t understand you or that you won’t fit in.

But it’s important to remember that when we feel like this is normal. You might never know it, but other people will be feeling the same – even if they come across as super confident. So don’t worry if you feel nervous about meeting new people – it’s completely natural!

  1. If you find it hard to approach new people at school, remember you’re not the only one.
    “There’s always a bit of anxiety for anyone when approaching new people. Starting a conversation can be hard. Try to find common ground by talking about things you know the other person likes too – like a TV show or pop band.”
  2. When you’re talking to someone and you find it hard to work out how they’re feeling, it’s ok to ask them.
    “For those of us having problems, reading social cues and understanding figures of speech, body language, hand gestures and facial expressions can be very complicated and challenging.”
  3. Your school should help you find the support that’s right for you.
    “My school had a ‘base’ which was a place for pupils with sensory issues and disabilities, we could socialise there during breaks. It really helped with my issues.”
  4. If you get bullied, tell someone.
    “Definitely talk to someone. It’s the best thing that you can do.”
  5. Joining a group or a club can help.
    “Hanging out with people who are into the same things as you can be a good way to make friends.”

Remember, if you are finding making friends really hard, there are people who will listen and help you. Find someone you trust – it could be a teacher or a family member – and tell them how you’re feeling.

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